Through our experience working with couples in long distance relationships, we have found that there are many things we must and must not do in order to survive the relationship. Below is some of the advice we’ve compiled over the years. Even if they look easy, when it comes to the actual execution, it can take more than your effort and discipline. It is your desire to survive the relationship that has the greatest impact on writing the outcome of your long distance relationship. Consider some of the following do’s and don’ts and along with your desire I’m pretty sure you can overcome your long distance relationship with ease and fun.
DOS
1) Establish an effective communication channel
The very first thing you need to do in a long distance relationship is to set up an effective communication channel. Most people will think that the phone is the most convenient way of communicating, but apart from the phone services, there are other alternatives that you can use. Instant messengers, email, VOIP phone, and traditional email can be very effective if you know how to use them. Each of the communication channels has its own pros and cons and hence you need to start exploring each of them in order to improve your communication experience.
2) Plan to meet up
There is nothing more important than reconnecting at regular intervals throughout your long-distance relationship. This will help both you and your partner share about the things you can’t do when you’re apart. The anticipation of seeing you again will always give you excitement and hope and eliminate the feeling of loneliness in your LDR.
3) Build a hobby that you both can share
By building and cultivating a hobby, you both have something to talk about and work on during your long-distance relationship. Finding something to do online can be quite interesting given its speed and reach, but never skip a traditional hobby either, as you don’t need your partner’s physical presence to share a hobby.
4) Surprise your partner
Occasionally surprise your partner with cards, gifts, letters, and flowers that they don’t expect apart from your normal correspondence. Use your imagination and your partner will love your efforts to make them happy. Sending the unexpected gifts to your partner will always spice up your long distance relationship no matter how far away your partner is.
5) Capture and share this interesting moment
During the life of your LDR, you can always capture an interesting moment by sharing photos, video clips, and audio recordings. As a result, your partner is indirectly informed about what has happened in your life, despite the physical distance.
Don’ts
1) Settle for a temporary replacement
One of the mistakes a couple in a long-distance relationship often makes is to settle for a temporary surrogate when their partner isn’t physically around. By letting a third party into your life you not only risk your long distance relationship but you also break the mutual trust and agreement you have made. While it may not be intentional, this type of mistake will be very costly to your long-distance relationship.
2) Take the relationship lightly
Your partner’s absence does not give you license to dictate and manipulate the relationship. You have to remember that your partner has their own right to participate in all decisions for the good of your relationship, no matter where they are. A long-distance relationship is just as important as a regular relationship and your partner has their own right to fair treatment.
3) Wait and see the attitude
Most of the failures in long-distance relationships that we’ve observed stem from the wait-and-see attitude of the couples themselves. This was caused by the couple’s insecurity, as they do not believe that the LDR will work, but at the same time do not want to end the relationship. Let me tell you, if you plan on having this type of attitude, avoid going into one in the first place as both you and your partner will suffer in the relationship. In an LDR, both partners need to be committed and proactive to take the relationship to a higher level.
4) suspicion
In a long distance relationship there is no room for distrust. In order for you to survive your long distance relationship, you must learn to trust your partner with all your heart. A single suspicion will break the bond you have for each other, and it’s the beginning of the end when you start to suspect your partner at any point on your LDR. While it’s easier said than done, trust me, if your partner is prone to doing something unfaithful to you, they will still do it under your nose. Therefore, there is no need for you to create such unnecessary stress in your LDR.
5) Succumb to negative comments about LDR
Couples in long-distance relationships always make a mistake by believing that LDR doesn’t work. The negative impression you have in LDR will eventually hunt you down and destroy your relationship if you decide to listen to the negative comment. So once you’ve decided to start a long-distance relationship, you have to learn to believe that your relationship will work. I knew because I had successfully overcome my own long distance relationship because I wasn’t influenced by any of the bad comments I received.
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