It is said that the best way to learn is through experience. I believe that's true. But I also believe that not everyone learns from every experience. It's possible to…
How can that be?
The answer is that you might be too busy to think about what happened. Not every experience has a “lesson” associated with it. The secret ingredient to learning from experience…
Which questions work? What should you ask? I've found there are five and the effect is magical.
#1 - What happened? Before the incident escapes your memory, ask yourself what happened. Capture the details. How was the process? who did what Who says what? Get a clear…
#2 - Why did it happen this way? If something good happened, what made it so good? You can learn from that. If it was a mistake or a disaster,…
#3 - What were the consequences? How bad was it? Think about cause and effect. Thinking about the implications of an action tells you why you might want to take…
#4 - What would you do differently in the future? That's the "so what" question. If you ever find yourself in this situation again, what lessons did you learn from…
#5 - What should you do next? You've thought it through, you know what you should have done, but now what? What are your next steps to position yourself successfully?
A wonderful side effect of learning from mistakes is that you can stop worrying about them. Yes, you didn't do what you planned and the results were bad. But you've…
So everyone can deal with these questions and learn from experience.
Or, if you're a manager, you can help a member of your team think. This type of coaching is one of the most powerful skills of an effective leader. In…
At worst, someone who has had a bad experience has a boss who doesn't tolerate mistakes. Such a boss would react with anger, guilt, and humiliation, creating barriers to learning.…
Managers also learn from mistakes. They can facilitate their own learning by asking the magic questions. Or maybe the manager's boss knows how to coach her by asking the questions…
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